Lately I've been pissed off about every single thing. Even a bird repeatedly chirping in a tree in the yard or a barking dog makes me so mad I want to kill it. I get mad at stupid people everywhere (driving, shopping, etc) and now I get mad at my kid, but I fight like hell not to show it. My avatar says it all. I really need to get hold of myself before I end up in jail or dead. Anyone else have this going on? I know I prolly need to see someone but I dont have the time or the money. Any help is appreciated.

btw-this is serious so please keep the replys serious

Sounds like stress overload, Try and find a way to work it off. Go to the gym, go fishing with the kid. We all feel like that at some point or another and if you can't afford professional help at least you're half way there in actually recognizing you have an issue. You might try some free community resources, check the front of the phone book or walk into a church even if you don't belong or don't beleive and talk to a clergyman.

Keep your head up and things are bound to get better.

Hate to use the cliche`... but been there, done that.

All BS aside (and there's plenty around here, so you know it's gonna surface sooner or later) you sound like you know what you need, your just not sure how to get there.
There are times in life when you can't see the forest for the trees.
There are times when the blinders feel burnt on and getting that focus changed feels damn near impossible.

What works for some may not work for others... so keep that in mind, but...

Take a few days, if it's at all possible... go camping, go for a drive, do whatever you can to change your perspective. Take some time just for you... no one else. Try to find your peace. It may not be easy and it may not be outter, but inner. My point is do something positive in any attempt to recapture what's made you happy in your past, excited about your future or even hopeful about anything.

This isn't the "answer" but hopefully it can get your feet on the path.
May take counseling, may take talking with a friend or loved one... hell, may take sitting around drowning your sorrows in a bottle (although that rarely lasts).
Shake yourself up... then take advantage of that to make a change.

Good Luck!

I agree with some kind of hobby that will take up some time. ANything to get your mind off what's making you mad.

junkyards are fun. get to go look at the wrecks, take apart stuff. just a idea:thumbup it does help me out.

or my other way is go jump out of a plane, both works for me.

also try taken your family out for a trail walk.

Been there, done that as well.

As stupid as this may sound, quit letting this stuff get to you. Quit dwelling on the stuff that's pissing you off. Try to look for the good things in life--despite how small it may be. Being angry is easy, and once started, a downward spiral that leads nowhere.

"No time and no money" huh? Maybe you've already figured it out.

Get a cheap set of weights and a decent multi-function bench and take it out on yourself when you get home at night. After a while, you'll be too tired to be angry.

But, yeah, there's something in your life that you need to deal with.

Go to the gym. If you dont work out now, start. If you have a weak workout, get a trainer or a friend to work out with. You'll come home not wanting to spend the energy to get mad at anything.

You're right, what you're going through is serious. I have the same problem. I cannot stand stupid people, and if you took a ride with me, you'd say, "Dude, chill." But I have had to change everything about how I act, chiefly that I have to let things that anger me run off me like water off a duck's back. I'm
having to consciously force myself to stop and take a deep breath, then just stop thinking about what is vexing me. Unfortunately, I do not have a wife or girlfriend, but I do have my siblings within 20 miles of me, so I have someone to talk to; this means I don't necessarily need to see a shrink to unload my burden.
So the first thing I have had to do is "pack my patience." Anger can flare from a lack of patience with people, who may have a legitimate reason for doing something a certain way that tests our patience (or not), but another thing I've wholeheartedly embraced in my life is personal responsibility, as there is no rule that says that someone doesn't have to be responsible in their own conduct.
I also find humor to help when things go wrong. An example is on Friday, when I slipped and fell on a wet, soapy floor; so I was mad at myself for falling, when my coworker came over to find out if I was alright. I told him yes, and he then said,"Well, when you get up, you'll have to rewet the floor where you fell." I started to laugh, which made my anger melt away, and though I was sore, I felt better.
I hope this helps you change which road you walk in your life. I still have a long way to go, and life will never be easy, so I try to go with the flow.

I go wheeling when Im pissed off. helps me relax. i end up smashing the body tho cause i am in one of those i dont give a fawk modes.

i know where your coming from. i havent taken a day off in 5 months, and being a manager at work and all the responsability and BS has me stressed really bad. im working 2 more weeks then im taking a saturday and sunday off to go wheeling. i love to go wheeling, and ill be fine once i take some time off to go and relax and be around my friends

thanks to all who have replied so far. Im usually not one to air my issues in public but I dont have anywhere else to go. I think the main issue is depression. My dad had it, too, and he drank himself to death last year. My brother has it as well, but has turned to religion to get by. I refuse to do either. I went to the gym with this a long time ago, that's how I lost 157 pounds in 9 months. That seemed make me happy for a little while till I saw it was still the same me and gained it all back. I been on 4 different antidepressants and none of them worked. I just feel the need to run away like Pepe said, but I can't. I have a family to take care of and am sort of trapped. I think I will get back in the gym, though, couldnt hurt. Maybe working full time this summer will help, too. Im a stay at home dad and work part time on the weekends. Read: Has no time to himself for anything whatsoever! Wife's a teacher and don't want our boy in daycare. Anyway, thanks again to those who reply. I appreciate it...

Today I was being followed by someone that seemed to be pissed at everything. He was 1/2 mile away and I pulled out on the highway in front of him and proceded to do the speed limit. He must have been doing 85 MPH because with in a few seconds he was already on my ass shaking his fist in the air. Then he flipped me off. I thought I'd contribute to his pissed-off-ness and slowed down to 45, then he flipped me off again and started waving at me. For 5 miles I did that, then when the passing lane came up, he thought he was going to pass, but nope...I slowly moved in to the left lane to slowly pass a truck. Then when I passed that truck he thought he was going to go right and get around me.....nope...as soon as I was almost around the truck I put my left turn signal on and slowed down to turn in to someones driveway. He was ****in fuming mad. He had to slam on the brakes to keep from hiting me as I stopped right there in the passing lane on the highway to make a left turn for no reason other then to make him madder.
After I finally turned and he went on flipping me off again, all I could do was laugh. There wasn't anything he could do or say to me that would offend me or piss me off because I know no matter what he does he was still the poor bastard driving an oil burning piece of shit that I wouldn't take if it was given to me.

The only one who can find out what's wrong with you, is you. Dig deep, think hard and deal with it. It's not easy, nor quick and simple.

Um...Mike, I don't think that helped him. :shrug


I have to watch my temper too. I hate stupid people, and the Army is full of them. So I have to deal with them on a daily basis. My release is my time alone. I read, play PC games (the kind where shit blows up), or just go somewhere all by my self to be alone with my thoughts. I've done some of my best thinking that way, as well as scratched the hell out of my paint from those damn trees I slid into. Loud (heavy metal/rock) music helps cool me off too.

I am in the same boat. I have a wife and 2 kids that I love to death. But I made bad choices in life. Quiting school was the first then it was downhill from there. I am trying to correct things now only to realize I can't correct them now because I have a family. Not only that is all four of us live with my parents in small house and its taking a toll on our marriage. My wife is the only one working. And money is always stretched to the max. I feel like we will never own our own home. So I stay depressed much of the time and turn to drinking which I know is not the right thing to do but it helps me cope with the issues at hand. Sorry for the book just wanting you to know you're not the only one.

thanks to all who have replied so far. Im usually not one to air my issues in public but I dont have anywhere else to go. I think the main issue is depression. My dad had it, too, and he drank himself to death last year. My brother has it as well, but has turned to religion to get by. I refuse to do either. I went to the gym with this a long time ago, that's how I lost 157 pounds in 9 months. That seemed make me happy for a little while till I saw it was still the same me and gained it all back. I been on 4 different antidepressants and none of them worked. I just feel the need to run away like Pepe said, but I can't. I have a family to take care of and am sort of trapped. I think I will get back in the gym, though, couldnt hurt. Maybe working full time this summer will help, too. Im a stay at home dad and work part time on the weekends. Read: Has no time to himself for anything whatsoever! Wife's a teacher and don't want our boy in daycare. Anyway, thanks again to those who reply. I appreciate it...

Dude! If there's a family history of depression, then there's a good likelihood that it's biological, and your kids may suffer from it eventually as well. Get back to a doctor.

Your feeling trapped as well; it's imperative that you get some time to yourself, or maybe a weekend with the wife and no kid (pawned off on a relative?). You need to break the cycle somewhere and rejuvenate.

Will

are you getting enough music these days ? Sounds simple, but it works. Nobody's got time to slow down and sniff the flowered panties these days, but you can at least slap on some feel good music.

While no one expects you to get into the Carpenters and Sunshine and lollipops. Just make sure you don't come in to greet your child after half an hour of death metal at volume 11.

Stay away from the shock stations and even commercials, if you can. When was the last time you made a mixed tape/CD/MP3 CD for yourself ? It really can help get you out of the slump you're in.

Get a pile more sun on your face too. S.A.D. is a real problem that many people don't take seriously. A simple walk in the park or "bury my face in somebodies new mown lawn" (Lovin' Spoonful") will help out too.

Stop watching/istening to the news for a while and plug into some good local $h!t going on in your area.

Get out and do some work in the yard. Plant something and watch it grow day by day;

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Gardening is one of the fastest growing past times in North America and with good reason, it's a MAJOR stress reliever.

It checks all the good boxes.

And remember buddy, if all else fails you can always fall back on these little pills;

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Sorry Will, I know you wanted all responses serious, but I just had to lighten it up for you at the end there.

The first parts of the response are serious and they do work for me, so give em' a try.

Sixlitre

Everyone gets dealt a load of s**t now and then, I have been in a deep financial hole for about a year now. One step from losin the house, one bad check from a warrant being issued. Just gotta keep on truckin. If it's really agitating you, break something, go to a gym and spar, whatever releases the tension. Hell go to a massage parlor.

You stay at home and care for the kids and work on the weekend cause she wants to keep them out of daycare? You need some serious sanity. One or two days a week the kids should go to a educational daycare and learn how to socialize and give you a break. That would make all of the difference in the world.

You just need some "you" time.

You stay at home and care for the kids and work on the weekend cause she wants to keep them out of daycare? You need some serious sanity. One or two days a week the kids should go to a educational daycare and learn how to socialize and give you a break. That would make all of the difference in the world.

You just need some "you" time.

I agree with Audra, no matter what happens in life, or how good a husband you are or father you may be, EVERYONE needs alone time. Something that works well for my family is that we split up the weekends.

I work all week and my wife stays home with the kids. Friday Nights is family night, we do something as an entire family, whether its a game, wrestling around on the floor, or just taking a long walk.

Saturday is the wifes day, she does whatever in the world she wants to do that entire day and I watch the kids.

Sunday is MY day. I can go do whatever I want, whether its wrenching on the truck, wheeling, fishing, whatever.

This way we both get a full day to ourselves to let off the stress of the week and to relax a little.

Talk to your wife and see if you can work something out like this.

Um...Mike, I don't think that helped him. :shrug


I'm sure it didn't

I agree with Audra, no matter what happens in life, or how good a husband you are or father you may be, EVERYONE needs alone time. Something that works well for my family is that we split up the weekends.

I work all week and my wife stays home with the kids. Friday Nights is family night, we do something as an entire family, whether its a game, wrestling around on the floor, or just taking a long walk.

Saturday is the wifes day, she does whatever in the world she wants to do that entire day and I watch the kids.

Sunday is MY day. I can go do whatever I want, whether its wrenching on the truck, wheeling, fishing, whatever.

This way we both get a full day to ourselves to let off the stress of the week and to relax a little.

Talk to your wife and see if you can work something out like this.

Sounds like a good set up y'all have. My wife writes lesson plans for the coming week and grades papers on the weekend. She also watches our son while I sleep from working Fri and Sat night, so it wouldnt work here.

You stay at home and care for the kids and work on the weekend cause she wants to keep them out of daycare? You need some serious sanity. One or two days a week the kids should go to a educational daycare and learn how to socialize and give you a break. That would make all of the difference in the world.

You just need some "you" time.

no, I do this because WE don't want him in day care. Louisiana ranked 51st in daycares among 50 states and Puerto Rico. Theyve had several instances of kids being found near busy streets because they walked off. There have been kids molested. No way in hell Id let my kid go. You are right. I probably do need some me time. Im sure my wife would love some me time, too. All she does is work and do work related stuff at home on her off time. I think life is just gonna suck until he starts kindergarten.

Sounds like a good set up y'all have. My wife writes lesson plans for the coming week and grades papers on the weekend. She also watches our son while I sleep from working Fri and Sat night, so it wouldnt work here.

I probably do need some me time. Im sure my wife would love some me time, too. All she does is work and do work related stuff at home on her off time. I think life is just gonna suck until he starts kindergarten.
Will's not kidding. It's 11pm and I'm watching my wife put grades in the computer right now.

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Funny you should mention that Six...I play in the yard to relax destress also. Sounds ghey, but I love to watch the plants grow...my favorite are my Stargazer Lily's.

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Will...I get this way alot. Every time I feel like I am getting a little ridiculous, I recite that saying:

"God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference."

I think it's from AA, but it helps to give me perspective.

I try not to worry about Assholes...I feel sorry for them and laugh at them.

"God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
the courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference."[/I]


My wife tells me that all the time when I get overlystressed while at work.

go smoke a bowl.

also, avoid the pol forum for awhile.

Funny you should mention that Six...I play in the yard to relax destress also. Sounds ghey, but I love to watch the plants grow...my favorite are my Stargazer Lily's.

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That's a prize winner there Ralph !

As much as I like gardening I'm a fair weather gardener and that's why I choose Hostas. They don't care if you weed em' or feed em', heck you can even go weeks without watering them and they still don't care.

They can take shade and even direct sun, though they ain't thrilled about it. Your cat can sleep in/amongst/under them, your dog can flatten them, sleeping ON them and they bounce right back.

At the end of the fall, they slump over and dissolve into the ground and feed on their dead leaves all Winter. Next Spring they come back up all by theyzsef's !

Kinda like maintenance free and you're dead right about the good stress relieving feeling you get working on them too.

Sixlitre

I understand and wish I could find some special words to help you with getting past this....but there is no quick fix.

I often feel overwhelmed with everyone wanting something from me or expecting things from me to the point I want to be left the "Fuuuu...freak" alone.

I would love to have a day each week to myself cause that would make me much happier but it just doesn't work for me either.

Hope you get find some answers soon.

I pick up my guitar and try to be rock star for about an hour and it helps me alot. Sometimes i come up with some pretty good shit too. It takes me away to a my special place, you know where yours is!:rockon

I pick up my guitar and try to be rock star for about an hour and it helps me alot. Sometimes i come up with some pretty good shit too. It takes me away to a my special place, you know where yours is!:rockon

You know I bought a guitar a couple months back with intentions of learning to play it. I got so frustrated after about 10 minutes that I went and gave it to my wife before I smashed it to pieces.:wacko Special place, huh? Nope, can't say I have one of those.

Walk.

When i feel stressed i walk. I have been known to walk for 2 to 3 hours. Think about what pisses you off and use it to push you further, when you're done walking, be done with the thinking about the bad shit, and take the time to think about the good stuff. Just walk hard and fast, and by the time your done, you feel a little bit more refreshed. You don't have to go anywhere either. Just walk out your front door and start walking. It sounds kind of forrest gumpish, but it works for me.

Either that or spend thousand of dollars in tattoos and piercings......

I'm the same way sometimes. I know its the shit I see that does it. Alot of memories of deaths that keep coming back. Sometimes being a firefighter is the worst job.

Walk.

When i feel stressed i walk. I have been known to walk for 2 to 3 hours. Think about what pisses you off and use it to push you further, when you're done walking, be done with the thinking about the bad shit, and take the time to think about the good stuff. Just walk hard and fast, and by the time your done, you feel a little bit more refreshed. You don't have to go anywhere either. Just walk out your front door and start walking. It sounds kind of forrest gumpish, but it works for me.


That actually works good. I do it all the time if I want to think about shit and cant sit around to do it

You stay at home and care for the kids and work on the weekend cause she wants to keep them out of daycare? You need some serious sanity. One or two days a week the kids should go to a educational daycare and learn how to socialize and give you a break. That would make all of the difference in the world.

You just need some "you" time.

x2........YOU and the kids need some social interaction.a year or two of being a stay at home dad (working w/o pay) is enough to drive anyone insane.convince your wife, this may be the only way you and her will make it.

I do something destructive when I get mad at shit, like attempt to work on the Bronco, shoot at stuff or build things.

I'm the same way sometimes. I know its the shit I see that does it. Alot of memories of deaths that keep coming back. Sometimes being a firefighter is the worst job.

yea, That is why I love being a VRT. I love smashing the shit outta cars. I'm a trucky also.



And will, just smash shit in your backyard, just find old stuff laying around the house and take a hammer to it.

You stay at home and care for the kids and work on the weekend cause she wants to keep them out of daycare? You need some serious sanity. One or two days a week the kids should go to a educational daycare and learn how to socialize and give you a break. That would make all of the difference in the world.

You just need some "you" time.

I agree with this. I live with my sister, niece and nephew. My sister gets such an overload its amazing to see how shes doesnt explode too often. Tuesdays and Thursdays our Church has a childrens program, we call it school since my nephew is too young for pre-k. the kids love it, and it gives her 5 hours twice a week to have her alone time/time to do whatever without the kids.

Just be happy your not stuck moving a family next weekend cause your the only person around with a truck. :banghead