I hate to bore you guys with my lifes problems, but I feel better if I get things out.
As most of you know my mom has lung cancer. She has been doing alot better, but she still will not quit smoking, which bothers me alot because it isn't helper her heal at all.

Last week, Wednesday the 25th, I was fired from my job. My boss said we had some shortages in money, and since I am the one that usually runs the cash register, he basically blamed everything on me, accusing me of stealing the money. I hadn't even been there an hour, he told me to give him my keys and leave.

I have no money, and my inspection ran out last day of April, but since I have no money I can't get it inspected. Just today I got pulled over by a state trooper, and got a speeding ticket. Clocked me in a 55 in a 40 he said, but he radared me as I was coasting down off a hill, onto a bridge, and he must have gotten me before I started to slow down. That's $137.50 I don't have. I am just glad he didnt check out my inspection sticker cause that most likely would have been another $150 fine.

I am doing horrible in school. Just everything going on with my life is making me want to completly give up. I have trouble paying attention in class, don't get half the shit they are saying, and always blow off the homework for god knows what reason
EDIT: Ok so I am not doing "horrible" in school, just bad in the 2 classes in which I don;t like the teachers, and they are hard to follow/relate to. In my other 2 classes and my Automechanics program, I am doing excellent.
To top it all off, Monday my dad had a mild heart attack. Scared the living shit out of me and I spend alot of this week in the hospital with him, and they let him out yesturday. Said even though all the blood work showed that he had a heart attack, when the did the catherization(I think.. SP?) they found no blockage, and no damage to any of the arteries, so he is doing fine. But just seeing him lying there in a hospital bed scared the hell outta me...

I don't really know what to do. I know I need to straighten my ass up in school. But I don't know how the hell I'm gonna pay for insurance this month, gas, the damn speeding ticket, AND an inspection. I have applied to Sears already, and plan on applying to the local Country Club/Golf Course tomorrow. I would love to score either job, lets just hope someone will hire me.
I guess I'll end my rant now... just really wanted to get some things off my chest.
-Casey

I hate to bore you guys with my lifes problems, but I feel better if I get things out.

Talking often helps.

I am doing horrible in school. Just everything going on with my life is making me want to completly give up. I have trouble paying attention in class, don't get half the shit they are saying, and always blow off the homework for god knows what reason

Not trying to get all psychoanalytic on you, but this sounds like clinical depression. Is there someone you can talk to locally?

Glad to hear your dad is okay, sucks about the money problems. Sorry, wish I could help.

:stupid I agree with sewiv, I think you need to talk to someone other than us. Do you have a good friend or pastor or someone you can talk to better get this stuff off your chest?

There was a time when i was just 17 and working my ass off to pay for insurance, gas, registration, tires, etc. while my grades went to shit.
Seemed all i did was work to spend money a shitbox to take me to school and work.

I quit my job, parked the shitbox and bummed rides. Not by choice.

Dad said grades up and you get the shitbox back.

He was right. Grades went up and i quit stressing over a 500.00 pile of shit chevy citation. Gave me time to focus on the important things.

Not trying to get all psychoanalytic on you, but this sounds like clinical depression. Is there someone you can talk to locally?

Thanks for the kinda words.
I kinda know what your sayin'. Last year they put me with some counsler, because they thought my "behavior in school was directly related to what was going on with my mom" because I had been getting in trouble alot. But I got kicked out of counsiling because I failed to cooperate with the lady. :brownbag
I don't like telling someone my problems when they don't know me, or know the situation... you know what I mean?

There was a time when i was just 17 and working my ass off to pay for insurance, gas, registration, tires, etc. while my grades went to shit.
Seemed all i did was work to spend money a shitbox to take me to school and work.

I quit my job, parked the shitbox and bummed rides. Not by choice.

Dad said grades up and you get the shitbox back.

He was right. Grades went up and i quit stressing over a 500.00 pile of shit chevy citation. Gave me time to focus on the important things.

It's not even really that... I was doing fine affording gas and all that. Hell, I even got out at 7pm at my old job. It's just the motivation to do anything at school is not there....
I have always hated bumming rides. Mostly because I feel like such a.. well... bum... because I have my license yet I rely on the other people, and I feel like I am putting some time of birdon on their life some how.
Plus, I absolutly love driving my car. The freedom to me is worth more than anything.

:stupid I agree with sewiv, I think you need to talk to someone other than us. Do you have a good friend or pastor or someone you can talk to better get this stuff off your chest?

I have one very good friend, my best friend you can say, who has been there for me through it all. Me and him talk about our problems openly...
A pastor... uh I'll pass... not too religious here... :duh

T But I got kicked out of counsiling because I failed to cooperate with the lady. :brownbag
I don't like telling someone my problems when they don't know me, or know the situation... you know what I mean?

I know what you mean, but think about it, that's kind of what you're doing here, isn't it?

If you can, give it another try, if they'll let you. It can really help a lot, if you help the whole process along by cooperating.

I know what you mean, but think about it, that's kind of what you're doing here, isn't it?

If you can, give it another try, if they'll let you. It can really help a lot, if you help the whole process along by cooperating.

Yes, but I am more comfortable saying something over they net that to a persons face... it comes out a whole hell of alot easier.

But I got kicked out of counsiling because I failed to cooperate with the lady. :brownbag
I don't like telling someone my problems when they don't know me, or know the situation... you know what I mean?


Might want to rethink that and get back on the good side of the counseler. I am sure she can help you with most of your problems if you open up with her and relate what is going on in your life. You need to do something cause you are on a nasty downhill spiral.

If you can, give it another try, if they'll let you. It can really help a lot, if you help the whole process along by cooperating.

Might want to rethink that and get back on the good side of the counseler.


Coincidence? I think not.

Might want to rethink that and get back on the good side of the counseler. I am sure she can help you with most of your problems if you open up with her and relate what is going on in your life. You need to do something cause you are on a nasty downhill spiral.

Right now I am just hoping I can find another job soon. If that happens I am sure alot of things will make a turn for the better. I have already started doing my work in school, and I am gonna stick with it. I will not do summer school :toothless

Hang in there. Don't sweat the firing, that happened to me once,it just means the SOB was prob stealing himself and needed to blame it on someone. I got fired for (they say)stealing a carton of smokes and $40 bucks a night. I told them i don't even smoke and they had a camera on the register so I was like "lets see the tape" and they cound'nt produce one. I think it was the Bitch redhead manager,cause she smoked and probally used the $40 bucks for drugs.
Life is tough now but it will come around. Your concentration problems are due to your worrying over your parents. It sounds like your responsable if your job gave you keys so you'll get another job with responabilites.
Slow down,respect the authorities ,talk to someone about your problems and Hang in there.

I don't like telling someone my problems when they don't know me, or know the situation... you know what I mean?

Find a different counselor. If you're still on your parents insurance, tell them you want to visit with a psychiatrist and find one you are comfortable with that wants to listen and help rather than just medicate you. With everything going on in my life in the last two years, it was actually too much for my friends or family to actually help me with. In a matter of two years, everything in my life went from perfectly fine to this horrible ball of shit that was rolling downhill.

Bad thing after bad thing kept happening, and i in fact got to the point where i gave up. I threw in the towel and went back to hiding my problems and hiding from myself in a world of drugs and alcohol. The only thing that did was help me lose time in fixing my life. I started seeing a shrink, and just talking to him for an hour at a time once a week. Just getting it off my chest to a non-partial third party made me feel so much better.

Things aren't much better. But i have a better grasp on life again and am actually doing a lot better. I still see the shrink once a week. I probably don't need him anymore, but i still feel better when i leave his office. It took me three shrinks to find one i am comfortable.

Part of the problem was i was going to people and friends for advice that they couldn't even keep their own life in control. It was like asking a wolf for help tending the sheep. My life isn't perfect, it never will be, my problems are my problems and i will deal with them the way i deal with them, not the way someone else deals with them. But i am content again, it took me a long time to get back to content, it will take me a long time to get back to happy, but i will eventually do it.

As far as your Dad. The heart is just a muscle, it can fail like any other muscle. I'm only 32 years old and have suffered 2 "cardiovascular events" which put me in the hospital due to a faulty valve in my heart, thank you genetics. If anything, that should make you appreciate your dad all that much more, you've got a second chance with him, you've got more time to spend with him, not everyone your age is that lucky.

Money is the root of all evil. I am not sure where you are at, but if you call and tell them that you are in the middle of a financial nightmare, they will take payments on the fine. Hopefully you learned your lesson about going fast downhills, it sucks but cops can do that.

You! are the only person that can grab this situation by the horns and control it in the direction you want. No one ever promised that life would be easy, but it's all in how you handle it. A little tip, there are more questions at the bottom of a bowl or a bottle than there are answers, they just hide the problems, don't start it, it's not worth it.

I would seriously sit down with your parents about the psychiatrist thing. I know you and i have argued in the past, but i will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers man, i know how you are feeling.

But I got kicked out of counsiling because I failed to cooperate with the lady. :brownbag
I don't like telling someone my problems when they don't know me, or know the situation... you know what I mean?


i hear you on that. i walked out of counseling one day and never went back. thats been 4 years now.


sorry to hear that casey. i hope things get better for you.

Find a different counselor. If you're still on your parents insurance, tell them you want to visit with a psychiatrist and find one you are comfortable with that wants to listen and help rather than just medicate you. With everything going on in my life in the last two years, it was actually too much for my friends or family to actually help me with. In a matter of two years, everything in my life went from perfectly fine to this horrible ball of shit that was rolling downhill.

Bad thing after bad thing kept happening, and i in fact got to the point where i gave up. I threw in the towel and went back to hiding my problems and hiding from myself in a world of drugs and alcohol. The only thing that did was help me lose time in fixing my life. I started seeing a shrink, and just talking to him for an hour at a time once a week. Just getting it off my chest to a non-partial third party made me feel so much better.

Things aren't much better. But i have a better grasp on life again and am actually doing a lot better. I still see the shrink once a week. I probably don't need him anymore, but i still feel better when i leave his office. It took me three shrinks to find one i am comfortable.

Part of the problem was i was going to people and friends for advice that they couldn't even keep their own life in control. It was like asking a wolf for help tending the sheep. My life isn't perfect, it never will be, my problems are my problems and i will deal with them the way i deal with them, not the way someone else deals with them. But i am content again, it took me a long time to get back to content, it will take me a long time to get back to happy, but i will eventually do it.

As far as your Dad. The heart is just a muscle, it can fail like any other muscle. I'm only 32 years old and have suffered 2 "cardiovascular events" which put me in the hospital due to a faulty valve in my heart, thank you genetics. If anything, that should make you appreciate your dad all that much more, you've got a second chance with him, you've got more time to spend with him, not everyone your age is that lucky.

Money is the root of all evil. I am not sure where you are at, but if you call and tell them that you are in the middle of a financial nightmare, they will take payments on the fine. Hopefully you learned your lesson about going fast downhills, it sucks but cops can do that.

You! are the only person that can grab this situation by the horns and control it in the direction you want. No one ever promised that life would be easy, but it's all in how you handle it. A little tip, there are more questions at the bottom of a bowl or a bottle than there are answers, they just hide the problems, don't start it, it's not worth it.

I would seriously sit down with your parents about the psychiatrist thing. I know you and i have argued in the past, but i will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers man, i know how you are feeling.

Thanks for the kind words rob, and everyone.
I will admit that at times I do get a little depressed. But I really don't see it as something I need help with.(although they say admiting it is step 1)
But I don't want you all to think your advice is going in one ear and out the other... I am just one who likes to try to deal with things on his own.
I really hope I can get another job soon... That would help out with things a whole hell of a lot.
And actually as I sit here and type this I am going through all my school work and making up everything I owe. :thumbup

They kicked you out of counseling? They dont sound like too great of counselors if you ask me...

Try getting a job doing landscaping/construction or something like that. Usually for people our age its the best paying job. Its HARD work but I dont know anyone my age who makes more than I do. Although you're going to have to wait until you're out of school to do it. Are you in high-school or college?

Something i always tell myself when I feel like i'm going nowhere but down..."This too shall pass". I know it sounds corny and cliche, and i'm not the kind of person that likes hearing stuff like that, but I feel like its the only saying which actually helps. No matter what happens, you'll get over it. There was a point where I was going under an anxiety attack where I couldn't sleep, I couldn't drive to school or sit in class without freaking out. I just lost my job(which i HATED). I was dead broke, my bronco had an oil pan leak, needed a new rear pinion seal, i got a ticket from a dickhead cop for not having a seatbelt on(it was broken, I had no choice but to drive it and had no money to fix it at the time. Went the whole 9 yards with seeing my doctor and prescription anti-depressants and sleep aids. One day I just looked at myself in the mirror, told myself what i was doing was ridiculous, and honestly it made me stronger. I'm now past that, going to a good college with good friends, I have a good job and love what I do. I've got 2 trucks which I love. Of course I still have problems going on but they no longer seem to bother me, I just know that I have to get over it, theres no option.

Just keep reminding yourself that you're young, you have your WHOLE life ahead of you. You could totally start over from scratch if you wanted at this age. The family problems are tough, I know. My father dissapeared when I was 4, and have been raised by a single mother who was left with tens of thousands of dollars of debt by my father. If you're in highschool, do your best to get some good grades, but remember that even if you dont, get into a community college and transfer out after a year or 2. Thats what I did, saved me a ton of money, and allowed a kid who ****ed around through all of highschool to get into a decent college.

Good luck buddy, i'm 100% sure you'll get over it!

Don't just pay the ticket, go to court and contest it. Tell them you're not sure how fast you were going, ask for records on the radar calibration before going to court and tell them how crappy your life is right now. If you have a decent driving record they will probably toss it.

Hang in there.

Don't just pay the ticket, go to court and contest it. Tell them you're not sure how fast you were going, ask for records on the radar calibration before going to court and tell them how crappy your life is right now. If you have a decent driving record they will probably toss it.

Hang in there.

The thing is I know I was speeding... the District Majistrate I have to see doesn't exactly like me either... he is my neighbor.

Try getting a job doing landscaping/construction or something like that. Usually for people our age its the best paying job. Its HARD work but I dont know anyone my age who makes more than I do. Although you're going to have to wait until you're out of school to do it. Are you in high-school or college?

I am also going to be looking into constructio and landscaping... and I am a junior in High School... 17 years old.

Isn't there other jobs you can do? Cut lawns? Go get a weedeater and cut everyones weeds. This is the perfect time of year too now that sumer is comming.

Isn't there other jobs you can do? Cut lawns? Go get a weedeater and cut everyones weeds. This is the perfect time of year too now that sumer is comming.

Well, I need more of a stable job. Mowing lawns will not ensure me a job day after day.
If i get a job at the local golf course I will be estatic. It's the exact type of work I like to do, "outdoorsy", and doing physical labor. :beer

If you wait for a stable job to come along you're going to be waiting a long time. If I were in your shoes, I'd do whatever I could right now to get the money I needed. The nice thing about being self employed is if a stable job comes along you can take that one if you want, and you can still do your own thing on the side.
Its never a good idea to rely on a stble job and a steady pay check. At any time that job and income may be gone.

I know how you are feeling! Ive almost lost my dad 3 times just in the past couple years. The last time was this year of school first semester had only 3 classes... English, Construction and Mechanics. When my dad was in the hospital i couldn't concentrate couldn't do nothing! All i did all day was think of all the up and downs we have had and what we could do in the future. Back to the school thing... Well English class i failed horrible had to much stress i was digging my self a hole in school. I would rarely show up i only needed english to graduate with 101 Credits you only need a 100 to graduate. I failed english and you need that to graduate. So no big deal il take it next semester. 2 months in i got kicked out of school after all the stress i had i didn't know how to do school i just coudln't do it. Ive been kicked out for a month now and blame my self every second for it. I now work full time at " Sundance " making 20$ a hour its not bad for starting wage. I work 5 days a week 12 hours aday but i work 2 hours overtime everyday. But now when i try to go back to school it will be to hard. I will quit my job for a month to do correspondence so i can get my grade 12 diploma and apprentice as a Heavy Duty Mechanic

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Mike

Good Luck! You will need it! Stick with school and try getting that stuff off your mind

I have one very good friend, my best friend you can say, who has been there for me through it all. Me and him talk about our problems openly...
A pastor... uh I'll pass... not too religious here... :duh

How can you not be religious when you live in Quaker country?:goodfinge

On the other side, your taxes to the state helps pay for the school bus, take it, but look at the bright side, hey its not the "short bus".

The thing is I know I was speeding... the District Majistrate I have to see doesn't exactly like me either... he is my neighbor.

You got nothing to lose but money at this point in time, He can't raise the ticket and you aren't taking time off work to go to court. Unless he is the only judge in town request a different one. Same as a jury the judge cannot be prejudiced due to personal knowledge or feelings towards you.

Lie and deny, were you watching the road or your speedo? Is your speedo accurate?

Always nicely and respectfully ask the officer to see the radar reading, It's your right and if he won't or can't show it have them note it on the ticket.

Subpeona the calibration records and his training records on the radar gun. If both are not present in court you walk.

If you have a clean driving record and do none of the above usually walking into court and saying I'm sorry, financial hardship, I'll do better will get it reduced or tossed.

If you wait for a stable job to come along you're going to be waiting a long time. If I were in your shoes, I'd do whatever I could right now to get the money I needed. The nice thing about being self employed is if a stable job comes along you can take that one if you want, and you can still do your own thing on the side.
Its never a good idea to rely on a stble job and a steady pay check. At any time that job and income may be gone.

he's right. Whether i am working full time or not i always have side projects going to bring in extra cash. Computers is what i do as a side job, eventually i will just move it to the main job and do what i do now as a side job.

Isn't there other jobs you can do? Cut lawns? Go get a weedeater and cut everyones weeds. This is the perfect time of year too now that sumer is comming.


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Little story....A friend of one of my kids got fired from a fast food place. He borrowed a lawn mower and a weedwacker and start getting neighbors on board. Made enough to get his own equipment and officially started a biz. That was two years ago when he was a sophmore. Fast forward to today....I see a nice truck and trailor with his biz name on in front of a house so I stop to say hi. Not him...it's one of his two employees driving his company truck and trailer, working his jobs while he is in school. It's his senior year in HS.

So it seems it could be a pretty stable deal if you make one.

Im with Mike an Rob. Its better to have a few bucks coming in rather then nothing at all.

Im sure things will turn around, good luck with finding a job.

Not sure about PA, but in Cali you can get extentions on traffic fines or do community service.

Your probably not going to find a construction job due to the fact you have to be 18 according to OSHA... Unless you find someone willing to pay under the table.;)

What I would do if I was you is go to your local quick oil change place and apply. Tell them that your looking to get started in the automotive industry and taking classes in school for it. Tell them you feel a job like this may be you foot in the door to your career and even if it is BS it shows you interested in the job. Put in your app. and wait about 4 days. Go back and talk to the manager. Tell him you are just out to follow up on your app. and that your really willing to learn. He will most likely start you vacuuming out cars but hey it is a job.:thumbup


I am sorry to hear about your mom. I know what it is like. I lost my mom in 2000 and it was the hardest thing I have been through. What stage is her lung cancer? If it is in the late stages quiting smoking may not do much for her and then I say just let her be happy.:rockon

Chambie, I have read the thread, and have read the offers and suggestions as well as your replies.

I am, or shall I say WAS dealing with issues like the ones you describe. Do not let the counselors put you into a peg.....your problems are your problems, and are often times presenting with personal issues, WHICH MAY OR MAY NOT BE RELEVANT.

The best advise I can give is "Sit by the river long enough, and you will see the bodies of your enemies float by." Loosely translated, Patience, young Jedi. You do need somebody to talk to, and if you say you are not "religious" so be it, I never used a Deity to find a problem. Many priests (both conventional and Utilitarian) are trained in counseling, and the fact that it comes from a religious perspective (on their part) often gives them the patience to listed to what YOU say, and not become judgmental.

You gotta trust someone, sometime. One step at a time. A problem resolved, is one less to deal with. Figure out where you want to go, and then work steadily and slowly to get there. When you do, you may just like the view.

Good luck my Friend.

Casey...If you cant pay the ticket tell them & they will work with you on it...

Thats my advise....You know the other stuff.....

Little story....A friend of one of my kids got fired from a fast food place. He borrowed a lawn mower and a weedwacker and start getting neighbors on board. Made enough to get his own equipment and officially started a biz. That was two years ago when he was a sophmore. Fast forward to today....I see a nice truck and trailor with his biz name on in front of a house so I stop to say hi. Not him...it's one of his two employees driving his company truck and trailer, working his jobs while he is in school. It's his senior year in HS.

So it seems it could be a pretty stable deal if you make one.
Now thats the kind of people I like. With his attitude hes probably going to retire at 40 with an 8 figure net worth.