Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: The armpit of Kalifornia
Bronco Info: '93 Custom 351W/E4OD/1356 4"Susp. 33" Tires. Now rockin the soft top.
if you really want custody you will do it now. you will never get it later short of a miracle, i.e. she dies or goes to jail. esp if she moves out of state. I am speakin from experience. when my kid came out here for the summer when he was ten he told me that his mom's boyfriend was hitting him. I went thru everythin tryin to get custody. even with two lawyers, advocacy groups, and her own mother on my side, it was IMPOSSIBLE, and at the end of my court ordered summer visitation period, he went home to momma and the dick boyfriend right on time. Or I was going to be charged with kidnapping a child and taking him across state lines. Yummy. Federal jail time for tryin to protect my son.
you should be gettin custody as the first condition of the divorce and makin HER pay YOU. the judge already knows the character of the mother right? according to what you said of her behavior at court? then when you go in you prove that you are the better choice by having a stable home for yer kid and proof that you are the more responsible parent.
I don't care how tired of her "shit" you are, your child should be worth it. if she is really as big of a turd as you say, and she really wants the divorce, then hold out for custody. drag it out. she will give up. people like that only have their own interests at heart. children are only weapons to be used.